The Truth About Love.

Author's Note: This isn't a continuation of the previous blog. It's a stand-alone. Enjoying reading:).

Love - A feeling, a mirage, a delusion, a pain giver, a heartbreaker, a sacrifice, a power, a toxin, a marriage, a restriction, a distraction, a disappointment, a prank, a curse, a fight, a revolution, a war, a bane, a boon, a dilemma, a person, a thing, a place, a story, a companion, a noun, a verb, a struggle, a journey, a chaser, a need to protect, jealousy, possessiveness, an obsession, an empathizer, an inspiration, a passion, happiness, feeling of becoming a whole, lust, desire, sex, dedication and above all, a LIFELINE. 

These are some of the many terms we all might have heard being associated with the beautiful term 'Love'. It has no fixed meaning, even if the internet suggests otherwise, and that's why it's one of the most unpredictable things in the universe. At least my universe.

Okay now tell me one thing, have you ever imagined what life would look like if this overused term hadn't been a part of your life? I am rooting that most of you have thought about it even before I asked this question but if you haven't, then think about it and ask yourself "Why is it important?".

Love is so many things but nothing at the same time. It's good and it's bad, but it's never dirty, polluted, or unclean. It's a power that can conquer all but nothing materialistic at the same time. It's what makes you feel alive even when you have absolutely nothing to hold onto. It takes a lot to understand what love truly is. Like all those things that no amount of studying has made a breakthrough of, yet if I may add, love is undoubtedly one of them. It's that engulfing feeling you get when someone looks at you or touches you, when someone does something as small as smile at you, appreciate you, show you something you could have never imagined in a million years, or when they surprise you. It's a feeling that plants life into your heart, it teaches you the role of grief in your life. Love teaches you to accept reality but makes you want to believe in the impossible as well, despite the popular myth that love is a distraction, a delusion, blah-blah. I think it's so much more than petty labels. 

Love can never be a distraction, or at least as far as my understanding takes me. It's just the mere 'Idea of Love' (as I like to call it) is what the true distraction is. It's the desire to achieve love that distracts a human. It's the whole idea of love being a part of your life, not love itself. Sure, love is overwhelming but not a distraction. Love has its versions. We all love our family and friends, even if we don't admit it. It's their presence that makes you feel like you belong there. So how can love be a distraction? Loving your family isn't the same as loving a stranger beyond 'the-family-kind-of-love' but at the same time, if you think carefully...at some point, don't you think that the love of your life becomes your family? They make you feel like you are at home. 

"Home's not a place. It's a feeling. A strong one." 

I don't know how many of you find something... anything... sensible here because it would have sounded crazy to me as well if I hadn't used my heart to write this piece. Even as I write this, I am still not sure what love truly is. It's a term with no fixed definition and even if it has a definition in dictionary language. But in its essence, it can never have a fixed meaning. There're different ways and types in which people love and that's why it becomes so difficult for people to understand it and this ultimately leads to a series of judgments and prejudices.

People believe that it's a distraction because they either aren't interested to know more about love or just don't want to accept the truth about it. You need to love the idea of love before you have an opinion about love in practice. 

The truth about love is that it is unpredictable. It can be found in the hues of the sky or the hardships of the day. The truth about love is that it has no definitions, no rules, no barriers that can suppress it, at least it shouldn't have any of those things. We often think of love as the soother, but it's so much more. It's a hope that makes you want to survive a monotonous day because you know what is waiting for you at the end of the day. It's a motivation to do something better out of whatever you have and want. The truth about love is that it makes you feel like somebody, makes you feel wanted and accepted. It's a welcoming warmth and a baffling blizzard, two completely different things on the face of it. It's one of its kind and there is no denying it. 

Love shouldn't be about age...but in many ways, it has become all about it. This is coming out to be one of the most uncomfortable truths of our surroundings. You shouldn't stop loving just because she/he is way older than you. It's not always exploitation or a 'set up to destroy the younger as the younger is perceived as a more exploitable and influential material. Surely, there are the majority of cases where the sole motive is exploitation but it's not like that always. The person who can distinguish between these two scenarios is, again in my opinion, THE MOST EMPATHETIC HUMAN, even if that same human passed a judgment in the past on the same couple. It's all about the acceptance and level of maturity and understanding one shows with time.

Now coming to LGBTQ( You thought I forgot about this? *The OMG+ shock look plastered all over my face* . Don't worry, I've got you covered ;) ).  It's funny how naive we used to be when terms like gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc were introduced to us. It's funny how some parents described the term 'Transgender' to their kids. With the amount of awareness, campaigns and real-life stories coming out into the open, on the journey of self-discovery, most of us have a completely different point of view of the situation today. Don't we all choose whom we love? If love is not defined, what gives us the right to define the love between two men or two women or its various variations. Sure, it's not something we are used to, but trust me when I say that judging is getting old-fashioned and adaptation is the rule of nature. 

 

"Love is layered. You can't just simply dissect it smoothly"

 

I am not saying I didn't judge the idea of "gigantic age gaps" back when I first heard of it. Today, I say and believe that "There is no perfect time for 'The Perfect Timing. You can't have both." I am also not saying that I didn't judge the LGBTQ community back when I didn't know much about it. My opinions have surely changed over the year, rather drastically if I may add. The awareness surely worked its way through my heart and there you go, here I am talking about love, love of all kinds. 

The truth about love is that pain is inevitable and that is why love is the truth of life. Everybody's life. It's that pain that wants you to get to a part where you look back and say "It was worth it".

Author's Note:

(well I am not sure if the author is the right word to use here...but...I think there is this nice ring to 'Author' than 'Writer', what say?)     

             

PS. I dedicate this piece to this fabulous and heartwarming book called 'The truth about Tomorrow' by B. Celeste. This book got me restless in ways I did not expect at all and I wrote this at the time when I couldn't read more of it at a stretch because it was just so overwhelming...not because it was disturbing. No, not at all...I never once felt uncomfortable reading the book because it is so pure and it took a piece of my heart. It's a forbidden romance. The way the depth of the relationship and feelings between the protagonists were described can never escape my heart even if it escapes my mind. Dedication to every Charlie and Ollie out there. I love you and your story.❤️

PPS. If you have made it this far, I love you more than I previously did and don't think it's not possible.

PPPS. I hope you liked it and do share it with your friends if you found even if you found one relevant thing in here, even though it is way too long * eye roll at myself*.

PPPS. The continuation of the first blog will be out soon.

Until next time.

;)